“Hard-to-meet goals can frustrate children with ADHD. Deploy these approaches to prevent meltdowns and transform relationships.”
By Ross W. Greene, Ph.D. Verified Updated on January 14, 2025
“When children exhibit concerning behaviors, their goal isn’t to manipulate or seek attention. Those behaviors are communicating that they’re struggling to meet expectations. Their frustration may erupt in screaming, hitting others, or destroying property. Harsh punishment typically follows.
There is nothing effective or compassionate about punishing your child to transform a frustration response. It is better to directly (and proactively) involve your child in solving the root problems that trigger their outbursts. This is the evidence-based approach called Collaborative and Proactive Solutions (CPS), a non-punitive intervention to decrease conflict and enhance relationships.
Follow the CPS model’s roadmap (abbreviated here) to uncover the roots of your child’s concerning behaviors and create lasting, positive change.”