Recommended Books

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Addiction

    Beautiful boy: A father's journey through his son's meth addiction (2008) by David Sheff. This well written books tells the story of a father dealing with his son's methamphetamine addiction. The book contains a wealth of information on addiction and on the struggles families go through in the process of pursuing treatment for a child struggling with addiction.





    Lit: A Memoir by Mary Karr. In Lit. Ms. Karr writes a compelling memoir about her struggles with addication to alcholol and the impact of that addiction on her life. It also details her progress in recovering from that addiction. A recoommended read.






ADHD

    Distracted: The Erosion of Attention and the Coming Dark Age by Maggie Jackson is a thought provoking book detailing how changes in our society are leading to an erosion in our ability to deeply focus. The book covers a range of current issues (electronic media, multitasking, social distances) and how they impact families and children. The author also include interesting sections on the neurobiology of attention and reading.






    Delivered from Distraction by Dr. Ned Hallowell and Dr. John Ratey.  Is an excellent book on ADHD.  While there are many excellent books written on this topic, this book is recommended as it provides information on the proven treatments for ADHD, as well as alternative treatments. 







Anxiety Disorders



    "My Age of Anxiety: Fear, Hope, Dread, and the Search for Peace of Mind" by Scott Stossel, 2014 by Knoff. "As recently as thirty-five years ago, anxiety did not exist as a diagnostic category. Today, it is the most common form of officially classified mental illness. Scott Stossel gracefully guides us across the terrain of an affliction that is pervasive yet too often misunderstood."






    "Monkey Mind: A memoir of Anxiety" by Daniel Smith "Anxiety once paralyzed Daniel Smith over a roast beef sandwich, convincing him that a choice between ketchup and barbeque sauce was as dire as that between life and death. It has caused him to chew his cuticles until they bled, wear sweat pads in his armpits, and confess his sexual problems to his psychotherapist mother. It has dogged his days, threatened his sanity, and ruined his relationships." Due to the descriptions of his early sexual experiences, this book is not appropriate for younger readers, it is recommended for young adults and for adults.



    Perfect Madness: Motherhood in the Age of Anxiety by Judith Warner is a fascinating look at parenthood in the 2000s. Ms. Warner delves into why parents, particularly mothers, are so stressed in raising their children. Comparing American versions of motherhood with motherhood from her experiences in socially progressive France, she finds that one of the reasons is that American's do not have the supports for parents considered normal in other parts of the world.




Auditory Processing Disorders


    An excellent resource on Auditory Processing Disorders is the book "Like Sound Through Water." by Karen Foli. The compelling book provides one mother's story of the process of trying to sort out what is wrong with her son, and of pursuing treatment for him.







Autism

    Animals in Translation by Temple Grandin is recommended for individuals interested in Autism and Asperger Syndrome, and for those interested in learning how animals think. Dr. Temple Grandin is a very successful and well respected professional who designs efficient and humane animal processing facilities. She also has autism. In this book she explores the world of autism, the way animals think, and the similarities between these two seeming disparate worlds.





    Animals Make Us Human is follow-up book by Dr. Temple Grandin to her book Animals in Translation. While mostly about animals, it provides interesting insights in individuals with Autism, Asperger Syndrome, and Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD NOS). The books also provides insights into behavior management techniques and an excellent review of negative reinforcement.







    "Born on a Blue Day: Inside the Extraordinary Mind of an Autistic Savant" by Daniel Tammet 2007 by Free Press "Bestselling author Daniel Tammet is virtually unique among people who have severe autistic disorders in that he is capable of living a fully independent life and able to explain what is happening inside his head. He sees numbers as shapes, colors, and textures, and he can perform extraordinary calculations in his head. He can learn to speak new languages fluently, from scratch, in a week. In 2004, he memorized and recited more than 22,000 digits of pi, setting a record."



    Look Me in the Eye by John Elder Robinson is the biography of a successful adult with Asperger Syndrome.  He relates his story from childhood to married adult life.  He provides many useful insights into living with Asperger Syndrome.  He notes that he has edited the paperback version of the book and taken out some of the profanity in the Hard Cover version of the book, to make it more useful for adolescents and for use in schools.





    Temple Grandin - This movie provides an overview of the life of Temple Grandin. Claire Danes who plays Temple won a Golden Globe for her portrayal.







    The Station Agent (2003)

    Many children with Pervasive Developmental Disorders (Autism/Asperger Syndrome) present with specific or restricted areas of interest (for example trains).  This delightful movie is the story of a young man, named Finbar McBride (Peter Dinklage)  who has an interest in trains who relocates to an abandoned train station in rural New Jersey.  While he has much better social skills than many individuals with PDD, the movie portrays some of the themes see with individuals with these difficulties.  One of the other characters is also suffering intense





Bipolar Disorder

    An Unquiet Mind: Memoir of Moods and Madness by Dr. Kay Redfield Jamison  details Dr. Jamison's life and experience with Bipolar Disorder.  Dr. Jamison is a noted researcher on mood disorders.  This book is an excellent resource on both the personal and medical side of Bipolar Disorder.






Bullying


    "Bullied: What Every Parent, Teacher, and Kid Needs to Know About Ending the Cycle of Fear" by Carrie Goldman, 2012 by Harper One. The author provides a comprehensive overview of bullying. Well worth a read.






College

    College options exist for individuals with disabilities. Many times, due to the presence of a disability an family, school, or adolescent will assume college is not an option for them. There are however a range of colleges that offer support programs for college students.
    These programs can range from highly directed programs to student support programs.





    The Peterson guide and the K&W Guide, among others, provide listings of colleges with available support programs.









Depression


    "Raising a Moody Child: How to Cope with Depression and Bipolar Disorder" (2004) by Mary Fristad and Jill Golberg Arnold by Guilford Press.







Disability


    "Upside Down Magic" by by Sarah Mlynowski, Lauren Myracle, and Emily Jenkins, 2015 by Scholastic. An excellent book to read for young children who need to go to smaller classrooms for extra support. Goodreads reports that "From New York Times bestselling authors Sarah Mlynowski, Lauren Myracle, and Emily Jenkins comes the hilarious and heartfelt story of a group of magical misfits. Nory Horace is nine years old. She's resourceful, she's brave, she likes peanut butter cookies. Also, she's able to transform into many different animals. Unfortunately, Nory's shape-shifting talent is a bit wonky. And when she flunks out of her own father's magic academy, Nory's forced to enter public school, where she meets a group of kids whose magic is, well, different. This new, offbeat series from hit authors Sarah Mlynowski, Lauren Myracle, and Emily Jenkins chronicles the misadventures of Nory and her oddball friends, who prove that upside-down magic definitely beats right side up.



    "The Memory Keeper's Daughter: A Novel" by Kim Edwards, 2005 by Penguin Group. The novel detailing the lives of a family, where the twin duaghter is born with Down Sydrome.









    The Short Bus: A Journey Beyond Normal  is written by Jonathan Mooney. Mr. Mooney was diagnosed as severely dyslexic and as having ADHD as a young child but went on the graduate from an Ivy League University. In this book he travels around the country in a 'short bus' and meets other individuals with significant disabilities.  The author struggles with what is the meaning of normal and how normal is defined in our society.





    This recommendation falls under the Recommended Listening Section. This I believe presents "a public dialogue about belief. This is presented through 100,000s of essays sent into This I believe. They then publish about one a week as part of their podcast. The podcast is well worth subscribing to.

    The recommended listening in this section is titled "Semper Fidelis" and is the story of a father journey through his wife's trip through Bipolar Disorder. It is a must listen for anyone living or caring for a loved one with a mental or physical disability.
    . Click this link to listen to the podcast.


    In the movie Adam, a lonely man with Asperger's Syndrome, develops a relationship with his upstairs neighbor, Beth. This is one of my favorite movies dealing with Autism Spectrum Disorders. It clearly captures many of the difficulties that high functioning adults with ASD's face. It is not perfect,as one of my patient's mother's told me after watching the movie "He smiles too much." but it is worth a watch.







Epilepsy



    "Brain on Fire: My Month of Madness" by Susannah Cahalan 2012 by Free Press A very well written first person account of a fall into mental illness. In this case Ms. Cahalan was afflicted with an anti-NMDA-receptor autoimmune encephalitis. Until this was diagnosed she had been diagnosed with multiple mental health disorders. A helpful read for family members of individuals suffering significant mental health challenges. The book touches on a number of important topics as she had symptoms from a number of different disorders during her illness.






Gifted and Talented

    Little Man Tate (1991). This engaging movie staring Jodie Foster, Diane Wiest tells the story of a gifted 7 year old boy living with his single mother. The movie, although overly dramatic at times (it is a movie), is a good introduction to giftedness, and to how some children who are very gifted can also be very anxious at times.





Healthy Living


    "Life is so Good" by George Dawson and Richard Glaubman "Do you see that cup as half full or half empty?" "I see it as being enough. So its just fine." This is the answer George Dawson gave to Richard Glaubman , over a cup of hot chocolate. This is from the book "Life is so Good" which tells the story of the life of 103-year-old George Dawson. Mr. Dawson was a slave's grandson who lived in three centuries. Because he was the oldest in the family and needed to work, he never had a chance to attend School like his brothers and sisters. After working his whole life and raising his children he decided to learn to read and to pursue his GED at age 98. Well worth a read, thanks to Joanne DeMarle for the recommendation. If you don't have time to read it, type in to google "George Dawson quotes" for a taste of his wisdom.



Learning Disabilities



    "David and Goliath: Underdogs, Misfits, and the Art of Battling Giants" by Malcolm Gladwell, 2013 by Little, Brown and Company. The reason to recommend this book is Mr. Gladwell's exploration of the question, do you want your child to be born with dyslexia? The answer is maybe, because many, many individuals with dyslexia also have incredible gifts that allow them to succeed. He then explores the reasons why.





    A very useful but somewhat dense resource on reading disabilities is "Overcoming Dyslexia: A New Complete Science-Based Program for Reading Problems at Any Level" by Sally Shaywitz (2004) Alfred A. Knopf.








    Proust and the Squid by Maryanne Wolf is recommended for individuals interested in Reading, Neurology, how the brain works when we read, and what research says goes wrong or possibly right when an individual can't read. The books provides a wealth of information in a comparatively easy to read style. The books is highly recommended for parents of children with reading disorders and for the teachers teaching those children.





    Why cant u teach me 2 read by Beth Fertig details the twin stories of three young adults with severe Learning Disabilities who work with public interest attorneys to win compensatory education services (direct private reading instruction) from the NYC Schools. The book follows the progress of these three 18 and 20 year olds actually begin to learn how to read. The other story in the book follows Mayor Bloomberg and his school chancellor, Joel Klein's, efforts to reshape the NYC School system to provide better services for struggling readers. The book by Berth Fertig, a senior reporter for WNYC Radio in New York, provides information on school reform efforts, the nature of dyslexia, the special education process, and information on specific reading interventions.





Math

    Kiss My Math is a book written for 7th to 9th grade girls, specifically to show them that math can be fun, and cool, and to teach them pre-Algebra.  The book is written by actress and mathematician, Danica McKellar (Winnie Cooper from the Wonder Years). The book is written to give girls the tools they need to ace tests and homework. The books is written in a just-us-girls style and teaches girls how math can be used on an every day basis.





    Math Doesn't Suck is her second book and it is written for 5th and 6th grade girls.










    "The MoneySmart Family System: Teaching Financial Independence to Children of Every Age" by Steve Economides, Annette Economides, 2012 by Thomas Nelson Publihers. The authors provide some useful and sound advice on teaching children about money and financials, although they can be a little to preachy at times.





Mental Illness

Obsessive-Compuslive Disorder

    As Good as it Gets (1997) is an Academy Award winning movie about a successful writer who has an Obsessive/Compulsive Disorder.  The film give a very good portrayal of the difficulties faced by individuals with this disorder.







    "Devil in the Details: Scenes from an Obsessive Girlhood" by Jennifer Traig In this book, the author describes her experience with OCD and mental illness from early childhood until her freshman year at Brandeis College. She suffered from various forms of obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), including anorexia and a rarer, "hyper-religious form" of OCD called scrupulosity, in which sanctified rituals such as hand washing and daily prayer are repeated in endless loops. The story is serious but often funny.



    Ella Enchanted is a Newberry Honor Book by Gail Carson Levine . The story is a retelling of the Cinderella tale. In the story, Ella has a magic spell cast on her that makes her always have to do what she is told. The book was made into a movie of the same title in 2004 and stars Anne Hathaway.  The movie and book are both entertaining, but also can provide an insight into the lives of some children with significant anxiety disorders who always feel like they must follow the rules.







Parenting

    1, 2, 3 Magic by Dr. Thomas Phelan is a highly effective parent/teacher behavior management technique that is particularly effective for children with ADHD. Parent Training in the 1, 2, 3 Magic program is available through my practice. The book, video, and audio tapes are available through the Monroe County Library System.






    Buck is a movie about Buck Brannaman who was in part the inspiration for the movie the Horse Whisperer. Mr. Brannaman grew up in an abusive household and then suffered the death of his mother. He was taken from his house and raised in foster care. From that early beginning he has become a success in his field of horse training. While the movie is about horseman ship, his advice is really about being human. Much of his advice about horses is also directly related to raising children. view his site here






    Girls on the Edge: The Four Factors Driving the New Crisis for Girls-Sexual Identity, the Cyberbubble, Obsessions, Environmental Toxins by Leonard Sax MD PhD. In this book Dr. Sax explores the societal, biological, and chemical factors that are placing todays' girls at much higher risk then in past generations. While there are one of two things I would disagree with, overall this is an excellent book. Click this link to read go to Dr. Sax's webpage.







    "Masterminds and Wingmen: Helping Our Boys Cope with Schoolyard Power, Locker-Room Tests, Girlfriends, and the New Rules of Boy World" by Rosalind Wiseman, 2014 by Harmony Books. The author provides a comprehensive discussion of issues facing boys and in raising boys in today's society. Well worth a read.







    "The MoneySmart Family System: Teaching Financial Independence to Children of Every Age" by Steve Economides, Annette Economides, 2012 by Thomas Nelson Publihers. The authors provide some useful and sound advice on teaching children about money and financials, although they can be a little to preachy at times.






    "Parenting Without Power Struggles Raising Joyful, Resilient Kids While Staying Cool, Calm, and Connected" by Susan Stiffelman, 2012 by CreateSpace Independent Publishing. The author provides a very helpful discussion approaches to address many common parenting issues.







    " "Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings: How to Stop the Fighting and Raise Friends for Life" by Laura Markham, 2015 by Pereigee Books. The author provides a discussion of, and many suggestions, on how to work with families on sibling issues.









    Queen Bee Moms & KingPin Dads: Dealing with Difficult Parents in Your Child's Life by Rosalind Wiseman is a follow-up book to her Queen Bees and Wannabees. The books covers new material and offers plenty of helpful insights and parenting techniques for both girls and boys. My favorite was a topic you hardly see directly addressed - What to do if you walk in on your child while they are in the midst of having sex. This frank and honest approach is why I recommend her books.





    We've Got Issues: Children and Parents in the Age of Medication by Judith Warner is an insightful book that explores the reasons many parents find it so difficult to make the decision to try a child on medication and once they do why they continue to feel so guilty about this decision. This guilt (let alone any medication side effects) lead many families to have a yo yo approach to medication. To listen to an interview between Ms. Warner and National Institute of Mental Health Director Thomas Insel click on this link.






Stroke



    "Left Neglected" by Lisa Genova 2011 by Gallery Books is a very telling fictional account of surviving brain damage to experience what is referred to as "left or right neglect". The Amazon review states "Sarah Nickerson, like any other working mom, is busy trying to have it all. One morning while racing to work and distracted by her cell phone, she looks away from the road for one second too long. In that blink of an eye, all the rapidly moving parts of her over-scheduled life come to a screeching halt. After a brain injury steals her awareness of everything on her left side, Sarah must retrain her mind to perceive the world as a whole. In so doing, she also learns how to pay attention to the people and parts of her life that matter most. In this powerful and poignant New York Times bestseller, Lisa Genova explores what can happen when we are forced to change our perception of everything around us. Left Neglected is an unforgettable story about finding abundance in the most difficult of circumstances, learning to pay attention to the details, and nourishing what truly matters."





Teaching

Teens


    "Masterminds and Wingmen: Helping Our Boys Cope with Schoolyard Power, Locker-Room Tests, Girlfriends, and the New Rules of Boy World" by Rosalind Wiseman, 2014 by Harmony Books. The author provides a comprehensive discussion of issues facing boys and in raising boys in today's society. Well worth a read.






    Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques,  Gossip, Boyfriends, and the New Realities of Girl World.  by Rosalind Wiseman.  This excellent book provides detailed explanations of the social gauntlet girls today have to survive to grow up to be women.  The book is primarily written for mothers, but fathers will learn a lot to.  This is a great book for anyone raising a daughter, but a must read for anyone whose daughter is suffering social teasing or harrassment.





Traumatic Brain Injury

    The Water Giver: The Story of a Mother, a Son, and Their Second Chance by Joan Ryan tells the story of a mother's experience surviving her 16 year old son's Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI). Many of my website visitor will relate to this story, because even before his brain injury, Ryan, had numerous attentional an behavioral issues. The story is well written and an easy read. The book is full of useful information and is also a helpful guide to working with the medical system when facing significant medical issues.






Treatment


    A resource on treatment is Feeling Good: the New Mood Therapy (1999) by David D. Burns by Avon Books.








    Spark: The Revolutionary New Science of Exercise and the Brain by Dr. John Ratey explores the connection between exercise and the brain.  Dr. Ratey explores the latest neuroscience research on how brains grow and how exercise encourages brain growth and learning. He also explores how schools are changing their PE programs to optimize these benefits to increase student learning, health, and test scores.






Vitamins

    Mental Health Naturally: The Family Guide to Holistic Care for a Healthy Mind and Body by Kathi Kemper provides an overview of of mental health disorders, basic strategies to address these disorders. Many of my patients will find that Dr. Kemper covers many of the life style interventions that I typically recommend to address mental health issues. As such I strongly recommend this book.









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